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Have you ever walked into an IEP meeting and immediately felt it? The tension. The forced smiles. The “we’re fine” energy that is very much not fine.
In this episode, we talk about what to do when the room feels hostile before the first agenda item is even mentioned — when people look uncomfortable, defensive, or already annoyed… and you’re trying to advocate without getting pulled into the emotional undertow.
When the vibe gets tense, some of us talk too much, shut down, over-explain, fidget, or accidentally let our face do the talking. So we start with self-awareness — because knowing your default response is the first step toward changing the dynamic.
Then, I walk you through three practical strategies to help soften the room and keep the meeting focused on the child:
- Disarm the tension by modeling a collaborative, child-centered spirit (and rerouting the discussion back to your child, again and again)
- Use calm, open body language and regulated communication to support agreement and de-escalation
- Make the environment more comfortable with intentional “meeting energy” shifts — including small talk, seating choices, and yes… sometimes even treats
We also talk about the subtle things that matter more than you’d think: tone of voice, facial expressions, where you sit at the table, how you enter the meeting, and how to avoid getting stuck in a tense posture that signals “battle mode.”
If your IEP meetings feel like you’re walking into a storm cloud — and you want tools to shift the atmosphere before it derails the conversation — this episode will help you approach those moments with more calm, more strategy, and more control.
(And if you bring cookies… please bring ones you actually want to eat.)
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